Last year, my sweet friend Erin Bowman posted about a letter she’d written to herself before her first books sold. She’d used a cool site called FutureMe, which allows you to scribble a letter to your future self and schedule it to arrive in your inbox a year or so later. At the time, Erin’s post was pretty inspiring to me. When I read it, I was in a pretty low place, and I decided a letter to my own future self might be therapeutic.

Today, one year later, that letter arrived. Here’s what PastMe had to say to PresentMe:

Dear FutureMe,

I know you’re scared. I know you feel like this roller coaster ride is just a series of heartbreaking plunges. The black hole of silence while you’re out on submission. The rejections. The ‘I was thisclose but failed again’ despair.

I know.

I’m scared, too. I’m worried that you’re going to quit writing. So listen up. After this next setback, you’ve got to pick yourself up (yes, again!) and rally. Don’t let yourself mope and cry for more than a day. Open that laptop and start something new . Or something old. Or something weird. Whatever. Just get writing.

You’ve come too far to give up on all your dreams. Please, please, please wipe those eyes and try again. If you do…one day, you’ll thank me.

I promise.

Love,
Me

Today, as I read this, my eyes are tearing up for a whole set of different reasons. Good reasons. Joyful reasons. I needed PastMe to kick herself in the pants and keep going. She did, and I’m so glad.

I share this with you, because maybe you’re at the end of your rope. Or maybe you’re almost there, but you just don’t have the heart to keep chasing your dreams anymore. Maybe it’s too heartbreaking. Maybe you’ve all but given up, and the creeping doubt has gotten out of control, and it’s nothing less than a 300 lb. gorilla on your back. If that’s the case, write yourself a letter. Then get back to work.

Write another book. Paint another picture. Sing another song. Get back on the road to wherever it is you’re going. Do it. Your FutureMe will thank you.

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Okay guys.

From now on, whenever I spot/hear/read/eat/fall in love with an amazing/inspiring/delicious/brilliant album/book/snack/whatever, I’m going to try to pass on the awesome. I’m calling this new blog/twitter/tumblr series: Addictions You Should Adopt, because…well, we could all use a little more chronic, all-consuming, habit-forming goodness, right?

If you agree, I’m always up for spotting your fave (positive!) addictions at twitter hashtag #AddictionsYouShouldAdopt. Seriously. I want to hear about them. What’s more…throughout 2013 and 2014, I’ll be hosting some neat-o giveaways, and I’d hate for you to miss out!

For now, check out my very first recommendation on ADDICTIONS YOU SHOULD ADOPT. Prepare to fall hard for…KID PRESIDENT.

Osteogenesis Imperfecta (“Brittle Bone Syndrome”) hasn’t stopped nine year-old Robbie Novak from becoming an inspiring, TED-talking, celebrity interviewing, dance party hosting, pancake pushing, pint-sized ambassador of happiness, peace, love and understanding. Kid President’s ‘Pep Talk’ has already been watched by millions and his executive order, ‘don’t be IN a party, BE a party,’ is just too hard to resist. Hail to the Chief, Indeed.

What are you waiting for? Get hooked, and share you own addictions at #AddictionsYouShouldAdopt

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You have to carry the fire.

I don’t know how to.

Yes you do.

Is it real? The fire?

Yes it is.

Where is it? I dont know where it is.

Yes you do. It’s inside you. It was always there. I can see it.

–Cormac McCarthy, The Road

This week, I was at a conference and…

  • before a keynote speech, a grieving teacher shared that he’d just learned one of his students took his own life.
  • I learned about the Ctrl + Alt +Delete Bullies Club, where some amazing students in Celeste ISD are combating the problem on the front lines.
  • I attended a session about the sexting/cyber-bullying epidemic that’s raging through every young adult population, regardless of socio-economic status or background.
  • I saw the picture of a twelve-year-old boy who committed suicide last year after relentless teasing finally drove him to depression and despair.
  • I cried when I heard about the aftermath of a humiliating prank at my own son’s school.

All of these things…they just hit too hard. Too close to home. And the older I get, the more I’ve worked in schools, the longer I’ve been a parent; the more I realize…it’s hard to tend the fire, even in the hearts of our own children.

Yes, I’m one of those people who believe there’s a spark in all of us that makes us human and fragile and vulnerable and strong all at once. That flame is the capacity for grace and kindness and greatness within us.

And as I watch my boy go to school every day, I am more and more convinced that this flame–that essential piece of our humanity–is easily extinguished. By gossip. By pranks. By teasing. By physical cruelty. By careless words and images uploaded onto screens. By what’s become the ordinary, garden variety savagery of childhood in the 21st century.

Yeah, I’m talking about bullying. I know it’s a hot topic, and that you’re probably numb and cynical and wary of witch hunts and imaginary epidemics. But before you shrug off this post, consider:
– as many as 160,000 children miss school every day due to fear of attack or intimidation by other students.

– in US schools today, there are approximately 2.1 million bullies and 2.7 million victims.

– 56 percent of students have witnessed some type of bullying at school.

– 71 percent of students report incidents of bullying as a problem at their own school.

– 1 out of 20 students has seen a student with a gun at school.

– 282,000 students are physically attacked in 7-12 grade schools each month.

– 90 percent of fourth through eighth graders report being victims of bullying.

– According to bullying statistics, 1 out of every 10 students who drops out of school does so because of repeated bullying.

–Bully victims are between 2 to 9 times more likely to consider suicide than non-victims.

–Harassment and bullying have been linked to 75 percent of school-shooting incidents.

Source

You see, the game has changed. The occasional kid isn’t just getting shaken down for lunch money on the playground. In our tumblr/twitter/facebook/instram/insta-shame world, young people are routinely exposed to the worst kinds of torment–the kinds that tear away their soul and puts out the fire of kindness in their developing, growing, tender, all-too-vulnerable hearts. And too often, this is happening, not because we are terrible parents and teachers and role models, but simply because we are not actively, whole-heartedly and purposefully tending the spark.

We have been passive for too long. We haven’t had enough conversations about how to treat one another. We haven’t modeled how to treat each other with enough respect. Instead, we’ve been passive. We’ve left things to chance, feeling certain the worst would never touch our solid, stable lives. We assumed that since we survived school, that our kids would, too.

We were wrong. So wrong. And we’ve got to do something about it:

We can keep the fire burning.

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Librarian, Writer, Beatlemaniac

Librarian, Writer, Beatlemaniac

Do you live in the Dallas-Forth Worth Area?

If so, I’m teaching a FREE, two-part writing class for the Allen Public Library.

At 2:00 p.m., on Saturday, February 9th, I’ll be teaching about writing craft. In this session, we’ll discuss:

  • What makes a novel great?
  • How do I develop my own strong, unique writing voice?
  • What are some tricks and tips to improve my writing?
  • How can I troubleshoot problems in my novel?
  • How can revise and polish up my novel?
  • How can I give my novel the strongest chance at getting requests?

At 2:00 p.m., on Saturday, February 23rd, I’ll be teaching about the business side of submitting your work for publication. In this session, we’ll discuss:

  • how to move on the path to publication, from query letter to contract
  • how to develop your agent/editor wishlist
  • how to write an eye-catching query letter
  • how to get more requests for your work
  • how to use rejection as a stepping stone to improvement
  • how to survive the submission process

…and much, much MORE! Both sessions are designed to be informative and interactive with lots of discussion and detailed notes. I’ll share lots of practical tips and tricks from industry pros–basically I’ll do whatever I can to help you write/revise/submit a novel that really and truly SHINES. Hope to see you there! 🙂

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Writing is…

…the one thing you’re good at.

…the hardest thing you’ve ever done.

…just a career.

…the one thing that keeps you going.

…the daily grind.

…the next stolen moment.

…a windowless room papered with rejections.

…an endless horizon, no points of reference in sight.

…an easy escape.

…the hardest taskmaster.

…a high school party–the kegger with cool kids–where you don’t belong.

…a circle you pull others into, your arms outstretched.

…the safest place.

…dangerous ground.

…an affectation, pretentious rambling.

…bare-boned truth, exposed and sharp. 

…nothing to speak of.

…everything all the time.

…the secret you never tell.

…80,000 pieces of you, strung out and shouting, 250 declarations per page.

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This coming Saturday, I’ll be making my very first author appearance. How fun is that? And I hope you’ll be able to join the fun and attend YAKFEST ’13, where I’ll be moderating a YA panel. And wow, is it going to be a good one. I’m already a little starstruck just thinking about it!

I’ll get to ask YA authors Rosemary Clement Moore, Cory Oakes, Victoria Scott, Mary Lindsey and Jeff Hirsch to spill all their secrets, and my friend and fellow debut author, Julie Murphy, will also be moderating a fantastic panel with another all-star lineup–Jessica Anderson, Charles Benoit, Chris Crutcher, Simone Elkeles, Guadalupe Garica McCall, Jessica Warman, Lori Aurelia Williams and Shannon Greenland will appear on a comtemp YA panel.

I would love to see you there. Of course, I cannot promise I won’t hug you if you do. Did I mention I’m a hugger? Or…I also specialize in the awkward stare. And I’m pretty good at dropping things while talking. You know…whatever you prefer. We can work that out later.

For now, here are the important deets about YAK FEST:
WHEN: Saturday, January 19, 9am – 5pm
. Come when you can and stay for as long as you like, of course we want you there all day!

COST: TOTALLY FREE.

WHERE: Keller High School, 601 N. Pate Orr Rd. Keller, TX 76248

SOCIAL MEDIA:

https://www.facebook.com/YAKbookfest

http://teacherweb.com/TX/KellerHighSchool/YAKFest/apt1.aspx

KEYNOTE SPEAKER: Simone Elkeles, BAM. That’s what we’re talking about.
Panels of AWESOME Breakdown: 


Keeping It Real – Jessica Anderson, Charles Benoit, Chris Crutcher (afternoon only), Simone Elkeles, Guadalupe Garica McCall, Jessica Warman, Lori Aurelia Williams and Shannon Greenland
This is Not Normal – Rosemary Clement Moore, Cory Oakes, Victoria Scott, Mary Lindsey and Jeff Hirsch

This is Not Normal Either – Krissi Dallas, Tracy Deebs, Greg Leitich Smith and Andrea White

Vampire Smack Down – Cynthia Leitich Smith, Rachel Caine and Jason Henderson

There will be books available for purchase from The Book Carriage, and they will be selling books all day. 
The Book Carriage will accept cash and credit cards.
 You may bring some books from home for authors to sign.
 Food and drinks will be available for purchase at lunch.
 Of course you can talk and have your picture taken with your favorite author(s) during the signing.  The YAKFEST Yak insists upon it.

Will I see you there? 🙂

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I play electric guitar, a lefty Sheraton II.  Picking it up has made me a better writer.

I swear. Seriously, there’s a correlation here. I might as well go ahead and thank Steve Vai, the legendary guitar virtuoso who opened my eyes. I recently read Guitar World’s interview with Steve and guitarist Tosin Abasi, and it’s changed the way I think about stringing words together. Abasi and Vai spoke a lot about musicianship, but I think their words speak volumes about growing and evolving as any kind of artist.

…When I got hold of the guitar, the thing that really lit me up about the instrument is you try to do something and you can’t, but then you work on it and all of a sudden you can…That’s how it works. You become fascinated…It was an escape from other things in my life. And when you can’t do something but you work at it and then you can do it, you get this sense of achievement, which is something we all really thrive on, and also a sense of dignity that might have been destroyed by something else. So that in itself creates this feedback effect, this addiction. It was a beautiful thing for me.” –Steve Vai

Are writers so different? We stretch for the words just outside our reach, scribbling and typing and revising until we can grasp them. And when we find the right words to build a connection between the page and the reader, we’re euphoric, self-affirmed, if only for a moment . Yes, it’s hard to keep working to improve, writing book after book, but we crave that rush, the satisfaction of knowing these pages are better than the last ones. The struggle is its own addiction.

Vai elaborates on doing to hard work:

“…And when the Zappa gig came along and he was like, ‘Can you play this?,’ I was like, ‘Of course I can play it.’ ‘Cause all you gotta do is work on it. Slowly, slowly, note by note. It was unfathomable to me than any guitar player couldn’t do it. And I realized why. They just didn’t have the chutzpah to sit there and work on it…Greatness is an inspiration that a person has. So we can tell people how to be a virtuoso guitar player: just sit and practice really slow and perfectly and make sure you have vibrato and your intonation is perfect and then get faster and faster and just don’t do anything that you can’t play. Every week, click the notch up a bit. And then you’ll be able to play anything.

Writer, your keyboard/palette/lens isn’t so different than six strings. Play.

Abasi echoes Vai:

What happens is there’s this revelation that if you put in work on something you can’t do at first, eventually you can do it. And the first time that happens it is kind of like an addiction. You want it to happen again. And the more it happens, the more you’re confident that it can happen. So you start chasing your potential. You realize, Yeah, eventually I might get as good as I try to get. It feeds itself. So it’s not like you’re locked in a room practicing under obligation. You’re concerned with your own potential. You’re like, I’m full of potential and I’ve already started to unlock it. and I could spend the rest of my life doing it.”

Spend your life chasing down that next song or the next story or the next image or whatever it is you long to create. The process will nourish you as much as the end result.

Getting better on guitar is really just a reflection of your ability to chisel out your own doubt. Criticism can be devastating. When push comes to shove, we are all very sensitive. I know I can be. Artists have this burning desire to create something that will gratify other people–when you find the right audience. No matter what anybody tells you, we want to be appreciated; we want to feel like what we’re doing has value and that we’re making a contribution. But what we have to get through our heads is it’s not for everybody, but is is for a select group. And when you follow your muse and your creative impulse sincerely, you find that audience comes. They come.” –Steve Vai

Don’t give in to the monster of self-doubt. Find your voice. Build connections, word by word. Keep writing until you can.

(Also, get yourself a subscription to Guitar World. It will feed your inner artist.)

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